When I walk into a room crowded with people, I can immediately recognize my wife. No matter what she is wearing or how she styles her hair, I can still pick her out instantly. I could do it if all I could see was the shadow of her silhouette walking across the room. After 35 years of closeness to her, I know the feel of her touch; I know what it’s like to be in her presence; I know the rhythm and sound of her breath, much less her voice. I also know what makes her happy and sad. But how do I describe those things to you? If I’m trying to tell you or anyone who doesn’t know her how to pick her out of a crowded room, I can’t rely on the intimate details I cherish—I’d have to resort to physical characteristics, because that’s all you can see. Yet, those are not the most important or beautiful ways I know her.
In a similar way, our knowledge of Jesus Christ is meant to be deeply personal and relational, not merely a collection of external facts or rituals. Jesus said to Thomas in John 14:6, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me” (ESV). This profound declaration invites us into a living relationship with Him, not a checklist of rules or deeds. Yet, many of us approach knowing God with a desire for a set of instructions to follow or tasks to perform. Instead, what Jesus offers us is Himself—a relationship that transforms us from the inside out. As the Psalmist writes in Psalm 34:8, “Taste and see that the Lord is good; blessed is the one who takes refuge in him.” This is an invitation to experience God personally, to know Him as intimately as we know a loved one.
Which would better describe your knowledge of Jesus: Do you know Him in the superficial “height and color of hair” sense—facts about His life, teachings, or historical context? Or is it a personal, experiential knowledge? Do you know what it’s like to cling to Him in pain, disappointment, and confusion, to feel Him moving in your life—comforting, assuring, convicting, and guiding you? John 17:3 defines eternal life itself as this intimate knowledge: “Now this is eternal life: that they know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom you have sent.” Theologian Augustine of Hippo reflects this truth in his Confessions, writing, “You have made us for yourself, O Lord, and our heart is restless until it rests in You.” Augustine reminds us that our souls find their true home only in a personal relationship with God, where we encounter His love and presence.
This kind of intimate knowledge of God is precisely what many miss in the Christian life, leaving their spiritual walk dry and cold. There are countless seminary students, pastors, and “professional Christians” who possess vast knowledge about God—doctrines, Greek and Hebrew terms, church history—but lack a deep, personal knowledge of Him. This spiritual disconnect manifests in their lives: minimal private prayer, passionless or mechanical worship, anxiety about the future, and a reliance on the validation of others. They may hold PhDs, but they remain infants in the fruit of the Spirit—love, joy, peace, patience, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23). Christian philosopher Søren Kierkegaard warns against this, stating, “To know God truly is to relate to Him as a person, not to dissect Him as an idea. The Christian life is not about mastering concepts but about surrendering to a living relationship.”
The apostle Paul exemplifies this relational knowledge in Philippians 3:8, where he declares, “I consider everything a loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whose sake I have lost all things.” Paul’s passion was not for intellectual mastery but for an ever-deepening communion with Christ. Similarly, Thomas à Kempis in The Imitation of Christ urges, “Let it be our chief study to meditate on the life of Jesus Christ, for in knowing Him we find true peace and eternal joy.” This personal knowledge of Jesus is cultivated through time spent in His presence—through prayer, Scripture meditation, worship, and obedience.
Like the way I know my wife or any close friend or family member, intimacy with Jesus does not happen all at once with a wave of warm fuzzies or by memorizing facts about Him. That is the artificial and superficial way. It takes time, patience, and consistent choices to trust Jesus and emulate Him in both the big and small moments of life. Brother Lawrence, in The Practice of the Presence of God, offers practical wisdom: “We must simply accustom ourselves to seek God in all things, and we shall find Him always with us.” By inviting Jesus into every aspect of our lives—our joys, sorrows, decisions, and struggles—we grow in our ability to recognize His voice and feel His guidance.
As we walk with Christ over time, we begin to look back and see His hand of faithfulness woven through our lives. Psalm 23:4 assures us, “Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.” This promise reminds us that Jesus is not a distant figure but a constant companion who walks with us through every trial. Theologian C.S. Lewis captures the beauty of this journey in Letters to Malcolm: “We may ignore, but we can nowhere evade, the presence of God. The world is crowded with Him. He walks everywhere incognito.” When we cultivate a relationship with Jesus, we learn to discern His presence, even in the ordinary moments, and we find that He has been guiding us all along.
Let us, then, pursue this intimate knowledge of Christ with all our hearts. Let us move beyond knowing about Him to truly knowing Him—His voice, His comfort, His correction, His love. For in this relationship, we find the abundant life He promised: “I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full” (John 10:10).