Imagine a world where everyone’s prayers were answered exactly as they asked—just like in the movie Bruce Almighty. You know, the scene where Bruce, suddenly endowed with the power of God, hears the prayers of everyone around him. At first, he thinks he’s doing a good job by granting everyone’s requests, but chaos quickly ensues. People’s selfish prayers, all about their own desires—“I want a million dollars!” “I want a Ferrari!” “I want my ex back!”—create a mess, as everyone gets exactly what they want but at the expense of others. It’s a hilarious and chaotic scenario, but it also highlights a deeper truth: when everyone’s prayer is about me and my needs, it leads to confusion, imbalance, and destruction, not harmony or blessing.
In the same way, when our prayer life is centered solely on our individual desires, it can quickly become spiritually messy. This brings us to an important point in Jesus’ teaching: prayer was never meant to be selfish. While we might laugh at the absurdity of a world where everyone’s individual, self-centered prayers were answered, we need to reflect on how often we, too, fall into the trap of focusing only on our needs, without considering the larger picture of God’s kingdom and the community of believers.
This brings us to the difference between the “Selfish Cliff Version” (SCV) of prayer and the actual Lord’s Prayer as given by Jesus. The SCV prayer, as I call it, might sound like this:
The Selfish Cliff Version (SCV)
1. “My Father, who is in heaven…”
• This begins with a self-centered focus on my relationship with God, isolating the individual. Contrast that with the Lord’s Prayer, which opens with “Our Father,” indicating a collective identity within the family of God.
2. “Give me this day my daily bread.”
• The SCV request focuses only on my needs, without any regard for others. In contrast, the Lord’s Prayer asks for “our” daily bread, recognizing that we are all in need and that God provides for the community.
3. “And forgive me my debts, as I also have forgiven my debtors.”
• Here, forgiveness is sought for the individual alone, leaving out the larger communal aspect. The Lord’s Prayer, however, requests forgiveness on behalf of the whole body, saying “forgive us our debts,” indicating a shared need for reconciliation and restoration.
4. “And do not lead me into temptation, but deliver me from evil.”
• Again, this request is solely for the individual. The Lord’s Prayer, however, pleads for protection for all believers, “lead us not into temptation,” reflecting our shared struggle against evil.
5. “For if I forgive me my trespasses, my heavenly Father will also forgive me, but if I do not forgive myself my trespasses, neither will my Father forgive my trespasses.”
• This line is the most distorted, turning forgiveness inward and putting the responsibility for salvation on the individual. It elevates self-reliance to an unhealthy extreme. The reality, however, is that forgiveness comes from God, and it flows to others through us, not through our own self-reflection.
The Corporate Nature of Jesus’ Model
When Jesus gave the Lord’s Prayer, He did so with a specific intention: to focus on the communal and collective nature of our faith. “Our Father,” not “my Father.” “Give us,” not “give me.” This is a prayer for the body of Christ, a prayer that reflects our interconnectedness as believers. The needs we express in this prayer are not just our own—they are the needs of the Church, the global community of believers.
This corporate nature of prayer is often overlooked in modern Western Christianity, which tends to emphasize individual salvation and personal blessing. In fact, much of the culture around us encourages an individualistic approach to faith, where the focus is on how God will meet my needs, answer my prayers, and bless my life. But Jesus’ model calls us to a different posture, one that seeks the welfare of the whole Church and the advancement of God’s kingdom, not just the fulfillment of personal desires.
Modern Western Christianity and Self-Centeredness
If we’re honest, much of modern American Christianity has become a little too focused on me. Church services, teachings, and even prayer often center on how God can improve our individual lives—helping us achieve personal goals, find success, or get through tough times. While these are valid concerns, they can easily shift the focus away from the bigger picture—the community of believers and the mission of God in the world.
This is where the “Selfish Cliff Version” of prayer comes in. It reflects the default tendency in our culture to prioritize the individual over the collective. It’s easy to fall into the trap of praying for what’s immediate and personal, instead of aligning our hearts with God’s greater purpose for the world. Jesus, however, modeled a prayer that points us toward unity, shared need, and the glory of God above all.
Why Prayer is a Struggle
The struggle with prayer, as the passage points out, is that we naturally lean toward selfishness. Our society, with its emphasis on individualism, trains us to think primarily about ourselves—our comfort, our success, our happiness. But the Lord’s Prayer challenges that instinct by calling us to pray not just for our own needs but for the needs of the global family of believers.
It’s easy to get caught up in the routine of prayer and ask for me—my daily bread, my forgiveness, my protection. The hard part is disciplining ourselves to pray as Jesus taught—lifting up God’s kingdom and His will first, interceding for others, and remembering that we are part of a larger body of believers.
The Lord’s Prayer is a reminder that prayer is not about us—it’s about God’s will and His kingdom. Jesus’ model of prayer teaches us to focus not on our individual desires but on the collective needs of the body of Christ. The SCV (Selfish Cliff Version) exposes the dangers of turning prayer into a selfish exercise, one that reflects the individualism and consumerism so common in Western culture.
When we pray as Jesus taught, we are invited into a global family, a community that prays together for God’s kingdom to come, for His will to be done, and for provision, forgiveness, and protection for all believers. We are called to transcend our own immediate desires and align our hearts with the purposes of God. This is what it means to pray as part of a larger body—the Church.
Grace, Bruce, and God
I started this with a reverence to the movie Bruce Almighty. Although there is a lot of jumbled theology in the movie, and it probably will not be used or taught in any seminary soon. However, there is some gold in it for our topic of selfish prayer.
Bruce’s girlfriend is Grace. Her name is very crucial. And it is also the central theological concept in Christianity…Grace. It is what Jesus brings to us from heaven and what Jennifer Anistons character brings to Bruce who optimizes a person who is literally their own God. Grace means that God loves us selflessly and unconditionally. Grace (Jesus) loves Bruce and wants to spend the rest of her life with him but she sees the truth of his selfishness and prays that God would help him find his way. Jesus prays for us constantly before the Father (1 Jn 2:1), and prays that those that do not know God will find their way to him as well (Jn 17:3). Given God’s powers, at one point in the movie Bruce can actually tap into Grace’s prayers and hears her pray, and what she prays floors him… “Please God, help Bruce find his way to you…” and “God, Bruce has lost his way, and is despondent about his job. Please help him.”
The conversion moment in Bruce Almighty happens where it often does with Bruce (and all of us) face to face with God. In the movie, he has been hit by a truck and for a brief moment finds himself in heaven. Face to face with God, God eventually asks Bruce, “Grace. You want her back?” Bruce’s response is the key to receiving Christ, unselfish prayer, as well as all good marriages, “No. I want her to be happy, no matter what that means. I want her to find someone who will treat her with all the love she deserved from me. I want her to meet someone who will see her always as I do now, through Your eyes.” God answers, “Now THAT’S a prayer,”
Here is a link to the scene: https://youtu.be/Tg5Ihkw3vZw?si=eBeAkJ0TMW7T9kjk
In the end, true prayer is not about getting everything we want. It’s about aligning our hearts with God’s greater plan, His glory, and seeking the good of others, for we are not alone in this journey. We are part of something much bigger, a family that spans the globe, bound together in Christ. I want to pray like that, or I should say…Let’s pray like that.